Every mom I know says the same thing about making new friends…
That is sucks…
It’s hard…
No one wants to put themselves out there for potential rejection…
Moms can be cliquey like in high school…
We all have different parenting ideas and finding moms that mesh with you and how you raise your kids can be hard…
And I don’t disagree….
But still I persevere….
However, I’ve discovered to try and not get too close….
Not because I haven’t found someone I’m sure is my new BFF, but because more than once that person I thought was my new BFF drifted away….
You know how it is, someone moves farther away, or your kids graduate preschool and go to different kindergartens, or whatever the circumstance is…but whatever it is, if your kids aren’t seeing each other on a regular basis then you don’t keep up the friendship either…
But still I make new friends, because really? Sitting around drinking coffee with someone is way better than doing laundry or practicing my will you be my new friend face all alone in the mirror while Brooke watches Mickey Mouse…
And I’ve recently made a new friend…she’s nice…but I originally didn’t have my hopes up too high…she’s always looking super cute and dresses nice and has her hair all pretty while I roll in preschool in yoga pants again and only my cleavage to accessorize. Her house is super awesomely decorated and ridiculously clean…mine is a mess of handprints and raspberry stained carpets. I like wine, she’s a recovering alcoholic*….and so I assume that when our girls outgrown preschool we won’t have anything to do with each other…
And then this happened as I was walking with her into her spin class**…
I couldn’t believe it….
With that one question she made my cold gray heart grow in love and hope….
Because real friends? Will pick your earwax. In fact, real friends will want to pick your earwax…
Now tell me, how soon is too soon to ask her to squeeze the blackheads on my back?
*sober 10 years this month!
**yes spin! Veronica was so angry with me she wept tears of sadness that night at my Zumba class…I swear, vaginas are not meant for those seats…and how sad am I for friends that I will do the one thing I hate to keep her around?
Live this. Sounds like a keeper.
Denise recently posted..Calm My Crazy: Freckles
Real true blue forever friends are damn near impossible to find. Making new friends is hard because I refuse to be anything less than 100% myself & most people just don’t let it all hang out. Part of why I love your blog. You’re always 100% you & you don’t apologize for being true to yourself. Btw, your new gal sounds like a keeper. I hope it works out well.
KEEPER!!
Alison@Mama Wants This recently posted..This Body
Wow, that is a true best friend!! Women are so bad! Men can talk and mingle with any other man. Women look each other up and down and are like, ehh, what is she wearing! Have to laugh but its true!
Lacey and Jax recently posted..In motion
She sounds like a keeper.
I’ve always been the odd woman out. In person I’m not as outgoing as online and I’m just strange. Or so I’m told. lol so I keep to myself in real life.
Mary Kirkland recently posted..Photo Album Memories
Sounds like you found a great new friend. I totally agree making mom friends is horrible. It’s difficult and stressful, and just when you think you’ve found a good one she’s gone.
Kathren M recently posted..Peanut Butter Fudge
Trying to find new friends as an adult let alone as a mom is worse than dating. Happy for you – does she have a sister for one of us? Lol
Darcy recently posted..I Took the Healthy Snacking Challenge! (+ Popcorn Giveaway)
All my friends have moved FAR away (through no fault of my own!), and I have decided to just move into the corner and live out the rest of my life in solitude. Or move to Florida. boo. Hilarious post, as always.
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My Laverne only decorates a bike if the bike is GOING somewhere. Because those spin bikes so suck. (But then, I haven’t made spin in ages, either.) I love your friend who was willing to pick your earwax. I think there may be hope there after all.
Jester Queen recently posted..Chewie
I thought I found one and she abandoned me, it’s been hard since then but I’m trying. It’s like being single all over again!!
stephanie @ babe’s rockin’ mami recently posted..Skin Care for Athletes
Oh that is a good friend! I had a friend drive over on her way to church, in her church clothes, to plunge my toilet for me (this was back when I was single). That’s friend love.
Rach (DonutsMama) recently posted..Life’s Lessons: School’s Out!
Now that’s a true friend. Someone who helps you to look your best and doesn’t judge!
Erin recently posted..Memorial Day
That’s great! Love it! Reminds me of my old life of trying to make friends with other moms. Now, I’m in the land of “i don’t give a crap,” but I’m sure I’ll get there again. Friends are nice to have…when they’re legit:)
Melissa recently posted..Happy Little Girls
I’m glad I’m not the only one who finds it ridiculously hard to make mom friends (except in the blogging world). Sounds like you found a keeper.
Jessica recently posted..Rainbows
You can be my BFF. Just move up to North Florida a lil’ ways….. =) Oh and I probably won’t work out with you, because I’m lazy like that. So I guess I suck.
dysfunctional mom recently posted..Weekend Wrap-Up/ Happy List!
Ha. So true – I’m actually harboring anger toward my hubby because he insists that Piper go to a different school than most of the neighbor kids. I didn’t care that she had to start kindergarten and make a whole new set of friends. I feel like I lost all MY friends. We used to plan play dates and lunch dates while waiting for preschool to get out. Now there’s no one to chit chat with in the pick up line. No lunch dates. It sucks.
Kristin recently posted..Rites of Passage
you’re a good wife…since when does the husband make those kinds of decisions?
It is so freaking hard to make friends as a “grown up.”
I don’t have any earwax pickers here.
Shell recently posted..Pour Your Heart Out: When Mom Misses Something Important
would you want someone to pick out your earwax? Because if you do, I promise to do it if we ever meet…
This made my heart go ” pitter pat”. Gives me hope to find that totally awesome great BFF.LOL
I also have to point out how shocked I am that I am not alone in this plight of grown up friend making …so glad everyone else is weird like me..
it’s so crazy too, if everyone has such a hard time making friends, then why is it so hard? know what I mean?